"So often people want to ask me the “black perspective” on a certain political issue or social movement. A month or two ago, a conservative white man asked me to explain to him what President Barack Obama has ever done for black Americans. I never engage in these conversations to any extent. I won’t play into tokenism, and I won’t be in an interaction where the other person treats vital life-or-death matters for me and my loved ones as casual debate."
"I’ve experienced so much casual and dismissive racism in other aspects of my life that I never wanted to engage in the dating scene, where fetishizing and exoticising are often the best case scenarios and full-blown harassment or hostility aren’t far behind. Compound that with misogyny and the super casual nature of the hookup scene, I was never interested. I’ve asked out two men in my life, have swerved dates from countless others, and consider it a matter of divine intervention that I’m in a relationship now. The Lord was putting in the work because I refused to."
"Don’t hide your light to make others more comfortable with who you are. Don’t make yourself smaller to accommodate those who disapprove of you taking up the space you deserve. Claim it. Also stop relaxing your hair."